Beliefs

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Dec 09

Learning How to Go with the Flow

We cannot direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails.
~anon

Sometimes it seems to me that I do things with the best of intentions, with the utmost planning to details, but then get easily thrown off track when anything slightly goes not according to plan. I am starting to understand that a certain flexibility is needed to get through life; to manage just living and following through on plans. Sometimes things happen that I have no control over, but that doesn’t mean I have to give up on what I originally was trying to do. It’s ok to take a different route to get there, to make things happen.

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Nov 09

Are You a Trauma Magnet?

“All I ever wanted was what I have now – to be in a stable relationship and have dogs. And yet all my life I have been like a magnet for traumatic experiences.”
~Augusten Burroughs

I read this in an interview writer Augusten Burroughs did with The Independent and it struck me to my core. This used to be one of the long-held secret beliefs I had about myself: that I somehow caused or attracted all of the bad things things that happened to me. I do think that while it’s true that you often get what ‘vibe’ or whatever you put out, this comes into play when you are an adult and of sound mind.

If you are a trauma magnet, first thing is to get some therapy to help you determine if perhaps your actions as an adult might be causing or triggering bad things…and also to help you to overcome things that happened in childhood that were beyond your control or ability to influence. Patterns can be broken.

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Sep 09

We Are Inherently Good

The great, dominant, all controlling fact of this life is the innate bias of the human spirit, not towards evil, as theologists tell us, but towards good. But for that bias, man would never have been man; he would only have been one more species of wild man ranging a savage, uncultivated globe, the reeking battleground of sheer instinct and appetite.
~William Archer

This is something I’ve felt for a long time, since I was a little girl. Human beings are inherently good creatures. I have chosen to focus on the good in me and let that let shine. I have bad qualities like everyone else but I just don’t believe I was born a bad person doomed to evil and wrong-doing. I really resent this was ever put into my head, but I am trying to get past that resentment. Let it go, because it will only hold me back from living a good life.