Why Talking Bad About Others is Never Ok

So I wrote on a message board community of which I am a part a long post (really, it was quite a tome) about some issues happening among members of my family.  Someone involved saw it and was very hurt by it and felt I was talking bad about her behind her back because, well, I was talking bad about her behind her back.  I could try to say I wasn’t by saying I was looking for advice on how to help, and was struggling with how everyone else in the family talked about her issues behind her back and I didn’t want to be like that, but there I was, doing just that same thing here.  Saying something very personal about her that I didn’t have the courage and respect to say to her face.

I learned a powerful lesson about being real and honest with people. That basically if you can’t/won’t say it to their face for whatever reason, don’t say it at all.  Because talking about someone’s private business behind their back, without their knowledge or consent, even with good intentions is never ok.  It’s hurtful, and it’s wrong.

Related posts:

  1. Giving Away Personal Power I’ve been thinking about this for some time. The giving...

Related posts brought to you by Yet Another Related Posts Plugin.

This post written by Trula. Thanks for visiting The Positive Emergence Zine Project!

About the Author

Trula

Occupation: Writer, Used Bookstore Owner, Substitute Teacher Interests: happiness, childrearing, philosophy, marriage,yoga, quilting, fitness, vegetarian stuff, dreadlocks, beads and shells, sewing, reading, writing, web development physics, business, politics, art, animation, body piercing, plants/gardens, environment, organized space, reading, art, science fiction, small presses, thrift stores, antiques, homesteading, speculative fiction, farming, dirt, dumpster diving, survival, positivity, zines, straw bale houses, simple living

Leave a Reply

You can use these XHTML tags: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <blockquote cite=""> <code> <em> <strong>